Consciously Raising Children

January 24th, 2012

Raising children is something that many people do, but not many people actually think about. It seems that most people go about raising their children by the seat of their pants, approaching each situation as it arises, not giving much thought as to the “formula” they are going to use to help their children grow, learn, mature, and become happy, well-adjusted and gracious members of society.

In fact, a lot of people give more thought to how to raise their puppies than their children. Granted, you can put your puppy in its crate for a few hours, as part of its training and to give yourself time to take care of what you need to do. But you cannot put your child in a crate, or in the case of children, a playpen or a playroom, and leave them unattended, without potentially causing behavioral and emotional problems for them in the future.

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Dealing with loss during the Holidays

December 14th, 2011

For many people, the arrival of the holiday season brings with it a mixed bag of emotions: excited, anticipatory, joyous and hopeful feelings, as well as feelings of dread, loneliness, and the wishful thought that the time period between Halloween and New Year’s would just disappear. For whatever reason, everyone deals with the holidays his or her own way. But having a loved one that has passed away throws an entirely new set of emotions into the already crowded mix. Especially when that loved one is your child.

During the holiday season it is more common than not to finish a conversation or a visit with a statement like, Have a great holiday, or Merry Christmas, or Happy Hanukkah! Those words flow naturally from person to person, usually without a thought to what they actually mean. But when the person on the receiving end of those words is someone that has lost a loved one, they can set off a whole set of feelings and emotions that for most of the year have been “under control.”

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My journey of healing

July 20th, 2011

When my daughter Talia started to communicate to me, directly and through others, just after she had “died” in a plane crash, she started me on a path to healing. Although I will never be completely the same as I was before the crash, just knowing she is with me—and will be with me forever—brings me a joy and peace nearly impossible to describe. I feel this knowing in my core; it is a soul knowing deeper than I have ever known anything else.

It is my hope that Talia’s words and my experiences will help others heal from the loss of their loved ones as well. The purpose of this blog is to share her words, my experiences communicating with her, and the experiences of my close family and friends—with you, the reader, in order to touch that place of peace and love in your heart.

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If I am addicted now, then I must have been addicted then…

July 19th, 2011

A friend of mine recently mentioned to me that she was so impressed I had made it through the most difficult time of my life, the “death” of my daughter and her father, without resorting to drugs, alcohol, other self-destructive habit, or even therapy. When she said this I realized there are so many people in the world who for one reason or another find solace in some sort of substance.

I am very lucky that I had something else to help me get through the initial shock of my daughter’s death. I had HER.

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